“Difficulties present an individual’s character.”
Commentary
If we need to know an individual or ourselves deeply, a method is to watch how they or we reply to problem, challenges, setbacks, failures, stress, and conflicts.
Nonetheless, our power ought to be spent on demanding ourselves to be higher, not others. If we demand others, that may create battle. In addition to, if we won’t even perceive our personal thoughts, how can we perceive the thoughts of others?
Thus, this quote is about understanding ourselves first, then others. It is also about demanding ourselves, not others, to be higher within the face of difficulties. It is simple to be variety and well mannered once we’re in a great temper and have loads. However how will we deal with others once we’re confused, drained, sick, uncomfortable, or do not have loads to provide?
I heard a narrative of a prince who handled his servants slightly impatiently and unkindly as a result of he was sick and in ache. The king informed him, “Your servants have a a lot more durable life than you. Once you’re ailing, you might have all these individuals attending to you. When they’re ailing, they may not have anybody to take care of them, nor can they afford the most effective drugs. You should not give them a nasty perspective. That is actually unfair and unkind of you.”
After I grew massive canker sores in my mouth earlier than, making it painful to eat or converse, I labored exhausting to maintain a affected person and type perspective in direction of others. In spite of everything, it isn’t truthful to them if I deal with them with a nasty perspective; my ache has nothing to do with them. I used to be pretty profitable, and I used to be fairly happy with my enchancment in character.
Not too long ago, I used to be actually busy getting ready for a giant presentation. I slept for 5-6 hours for almost every week as a result of I used to be so busy. One time throughout a meal, somebody stated to me, “Is the whole lot alright? You do not look glad nowadays.”
I used to be sort of stunned as a result of I wasn’t sad in any respect. Actually, I actually loved the analysis I used to be doing for my huge presentation. I then realized it should be as a result of I look actually drained and severe throughout meals. I then realized how a lot my cultivation remains to be missing. I have been working towards “consider others along with your each thought” for just a few months, and that features not giving others adverse power or making others fear.
It is nice for me to be actually drained briefly as a result of the sacrifice is value it, however within the course of, I have to be extra cognizant of the power I am giving others. Regardless of how drained I’m, certainly I can nonetheless greet others with a smile and ask them how they’re doing. The issue was that I used to be absent-minded attributable to all the time desirous about my presentation.
Being overly hooked up to something, even when it is a “good” or “essential” factor, will create issues. Because of that tough expertise, I noticed my deficiency in cultivation. I am certain I’ll encounter extra difficulties sooner or later, and I hope I’ll study from this expertise and do higher subsequent time!
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