June 11, 2026
The Crown Looks Heavy When You Fear Your Own Power
Most people say they want power until responsibility walks in wearing the crown.
Power is attractive from a distance. It looks like control, respect, income, influence, and choice. But once it gets close, it also looks like accountability. It looks like decisions that cannot be outsourced. It looks like outcomes with your name attached to them.
That is where many people flinch.
They do not actually fear leadership. They fear ownership. They fear the moment when there is no boss to blame, no system to hide behind, no “they” to point at when the result comes back ugly. So they hand the sword to someone else and pretend they never wanted it.
But safety nets do not only catch you. Sometimes they suspend you.
The life you keep calling “stable” may only be stable because someone else is steering it. And if someone else is steering it, someone else gets to decide where it goes.
Power requires a different posture. It asks you to stop treating responsibility like punishment and start treating it like proof. You do not need to know every answer before you take the seat. You need to be willing to decide when no one else will.
Read the full framework in Allergic to Your Own Power.